Cinta itu hoax? –Love is a lie?

(English translation below.)

Kita di sekolah (di Indonesia) pernah di kasih tugas untuk mendefinisasikan “Cinta itu apa?” Menurutku sebuah soal yang sangat aneh di bahas dalam rangka sekolah. Kita suruh mendiskusikan pertanyaan tersebut dalam kelompok kita masing-masing lalu mempresentasikan hasil atau jawaban kita di depan kelas.

„Cinta itu kata…“ jawaban pertama dari salah satu anggota grup cowo. (Sebuah candaan sebenarnya yang tidak harus di bahas lebih lanjut.)

Aku tak setuju. Jika cinta hanya di ucapkan dengan kata ia percuma, tak berharga.

„Cinta itu hoax.“ Jawaban berikutnya.

Lah ko begitu? Masa. Aku tak setuju. Sama sekali tidak. Di saat itu aku masih percaya sama cinta murni, tulus yang hanya di rasakan untuk satu orang tertentu. Ikatan cinta yang bertahan untuk selamanya, tanpa batas, tanpa alasan. Cinta sejati. Dari lain sisi tidak heran mendapat jawaban semacem itu dari sang cowo yang ganti pacarnya seperti ia ganti sepatu, mungkin lebih sering daripada itu.

„Cinta Allah ga akan hoax!“ Balesan seorang teman (cowo juga).

Wow. Kagum mendengarnya. Takjub aku. Pertama, karena aku ga nyangka jawaban seperti itu bisa keluar dari mulut orang tersebut. Kedua, karena aku sendiri dan mungkin banyak dari teman-teman yang lain ga kepikir sejauh itu. Ketiga, karena jawabannya dalam. Sangat dalam. Dan kali ini aku harus setuju sepenuhnya. Sampai hari ini aku masih bertanya apa dia sendiri sadar sebagaimana dalam jawaban itu. (Aku juga kepikir apa dia masih ingat tentang jawaban sedalam itu yang dia pernah berikan dan membuatku sampai hari ini mengingatnya.) Jujur setelah hari itu aku tidak memikirkannya lebih lanjut lagi. Tapi sudut pandangku terhadap cinta agak berubah sejak itu. Aku masih percaya kepada cinta sejati. Cinta tulus yang sesungguhnya. Tapi ku sadar bahwa ada cinta yang jauh lebih penting dari pada cinta untuk seseorang tertentu. Dan ada cinta yang lebih utama dari pada mendapat cinta dari seseorang. Yaitu cinta Allah.

Cinta kepada Allah

Cinta tanpa alasan

Cinta oleh Allah

Tanpa di harapkan

Dan cinta yang abadi

Karena Allah

 

I don’t know why but somehow I felt the urge to translate this post. However it won´t be a direct word by word translation and they are some facts added I left out in the original Indonesian part. So let´s go…

We once got a task in school (in Indonesia) where we should define „What is love?“ (sounds like a title of a song –what it actually is). For me a quiet weird question to talk about as a school task. We were split into groups of boys and girls and should discuss about the question and our opinion´s towards it.

The outcome in our group were like “Love means sacrificing, trust, honesty… and so on” like the standard stuff. Afterwards all groups were supposed to present their results to the whole class.

“Love are words…” was the first answer of a boy´s group.

I couldn´t agree. If love would only be expressed by words it would be worthless, without value. Just a human´s creation.

“Love is a lie” was the next statement. (from another boy´s group)

Wait, wait, what?! I couldn´t agree at all. At that moment I was still believing in a pure, sincere, true love that you only feel for one special person. A bond of love that lasts for forever, without boundaries, without reasons. Eternal love. On the other side what kind of definition would you expect by a boy that changes his girlfriends like socks?

(The next one gonna be a little difficult to translate. Because the combination of two words in this case can have several meanings- actually two I consider.)

“Loving Allah won´t be a lie!” or

“Allah´s love can´t be a lie!” was the reaction of a friend. (A boy of the same group actually)

Wow. Somehow I was really impressed hearing that. First, because I didn´t expected those kind of answer coming out of the mouth of this guy. Second, because it was something myself and probably most of my classmates hadn´t thought about. Third, because the answer was deep. Really deep. And this time I had to agree a hundred or rather a thousand percent. Even though I didn´t thought about those words any deeper at that day.

My perception about love has changed since that time. I still believe in a sincere, true love. But I realized that there is a love that is far more important than the love for/ of a certain person. That there is a love that has a higher priority to strive for. And this is Allah´s love.

Love towards Allah

Love without reason

Because there would be too many reasons to count

Love from Allah

Without expecting or asking for it

And eternal love

Because of Allah

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Note: There are actually a lot more thoughts towards this topic and also some notes why this is so imporatant to me. I still try to figure out how to wrap it properly in the right sequences of words. I acutally planned to add it to this post but it would take me too long until I am satidfied. So stay tuned, I am trying to work on it!

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